Hey all!
Sorry this has taken me so long to get to you. The work load seems like it’s tripled since we left South Africa. Just be warned that the writing is really rough and unpolished.
Happy reading!
Home stay
The ride to the township was only fifteen minutes. Fifteen minutes. We went from high class hotels and gourmet food to single bed room, cement homes. Our group was split into groups of two. The girl I was grouped with was named Casey. She is an only child from Chicago and looks like a white pumpkin with legs stuck to the bottom. We were placed with a woman named Ellen. In Brazil we had an interport lecturer named Lulu who said that when you meet new people you should greet them like they are family you havent seen in a long, long while. I tried to channel her attitude as I greeted Ellen with a bear hug and smile. She laughed and slapped me on the back several times.
Ellen had a husband and a grown son. Her husband was away at a funeral and her son had moved out. She took us to a wedding. It was a friends daughter getting married so she had done a lot of the cooking for it. She told me we were lucky we were getting such good food. I laughed and replied that I was excited. The bride and groom were thrilled to see us. They asked if we would pose for photos with them.
Old women sat in a dim room. The air smelt of feces and something sweet. The talked in Xhosa to each other. Like I had greeted Ellen, I greeted them like they were family I hadnt seen in a while. It made them laugh and pat me on the back. Casey followed behind me. Her face looked like she was sucking on a lemon. She gingerly sat on a wooden bench and ignored the women around her. I turned to the woman next to me and struck up a conversation. She gave me the skinny on everything.
I received a plate of m(click)noso which is this puffy looking rice like item. The mqnoso had a yellow sauce drizzled on top of it with onions laid onto of that. The plate also had nyama (lamb). The meat was tender and flavorful. It had no sauce to accompany it but it didnt need one. A potato was also laid on the side of my plate. It was dyed yellow from the onion sauce.
While I was picking through the plate put in front of me I heard Casey explaining to Ellen that she was a vegetarian and couldnt eat anything that had touch meat. She sneered a little as she explained and asked, Didnt Semester at Sea tell you? I was mortified that she was acting like that.
I offered to help clean up after the meal and was told I could help wash dishes. Most of them had already been washed which I think is the only reason they let me. Casey whispered to me as I passed her that I didnt have to do that. Yeah I wanted to snap back I do. If I appeared at someones wedding in the states I would have brought a gift or card. Since I didnt know the only thing I could give them was my help. Instead I ignored her and rolled my eyes. I wasnt going to explain in front of the all the women.
We left the wedding in the early evening. The sun was sitting on Table mountain and Ellen said she wanted to take us to her mothers house. It was a 2 rand ride. Very cheap, she said.
I agreed and Casey reluctantly followed along. Ellen led us across train tracks and through a valley of garbage before we emerged on the road side. Taxis were swinging around the corner and we jumped into one. The three of us were all smashed into the back set of a cab and for the first time I felt like skin and bones in between these two women. And let me tell you I am many things but under 150 pounds is not one of them so this was a new experience.
The cab dropped us off at the entrance to the township and as we walked down the street Ellen explained that she hoped her brother and his wife were home. It took me a few minutes and several questions to realize that Ellens mother was dead and that it was her moms house but her brother was the one we were actually visiting.
Our visit was short, barely 15 minutes. I had enough time to take a few pictures and introduce myself to Ellens brother (whose name I dont remember). I dont know why we didnt stay longer, but before I would have like we were back in the cab headed to Ellens house.
Children came back the home all night wanting to talk with us. I gave Ellen my thank you gift, a SAS hat, SAS plastic cup and a draw string bag. I had assumed she had young children so I also brought jelly beans. The jelly beans were a re-gift. I had received them on Valentines Day and spur of the moment decided to include them. They were a hit with the kids who shrieked when they found out I had sweets. I explained that they were all different flavors but a little girl, no more than four, got a cinnamon flavored bean and ran around the living room hollering spicy! spicy! and waving her hand in front of her mouth.
Eventually they all left and Ellen sat down with us. We chatted about her house for a while. She explained to us how it cost 10 rand to pay for the lights for 3 days. Sometimes she doesnt have enough money, but because she knew we were coming she had purchased the lights the night before so we would have light for our entire stay. To hear that she couldnt come up with 10 rand was shocking for me. I had assumed people made enough to live comfortably. I had spent 140 rand on dinner the first night. It was only 20 USD to me. Not a bad price. But thats not how it was for the people in the townships.
After Ellen had been talking with us for a while I asked Ellen, Ellen if you dont mind telling us, what was South Africa like for you during Apartheid? The question had been weighing on my mind all evening. I sat next to her on the love seat, twisted side ways so I could see her face.
She didnt say anything for a moment. Sweat broke out across her brow and she lifted her yellow shirt so that I could see her grey bra and fanned her face. It was terrible, Ellen said, Apartheid was very trying on black people. We couldnt have bathrooms in the house. You know? She explained that if you had children or stomach problems you had to walk to the communal bathrooms. Even at night, with children! She exclaimed, You know thats why Nelson Mandela was fighting. She said very seriously.
Yeah, I know, the words were pulled from my heart.
She spared no detail. At the office blacks had to have their own cups and plates, you know? We couldnt touch the white peoples stuff. They thought wed steal it or break it. She went on about Apartheid for several more minutes before she said, and its not really over you know? They are still trying to put us back in that!
I wasnt sure who they were but I nodded and asked what she meant. She explained how you have to pay your water bill every month to make it go on all the time. If you accumulate a debt of more than 50 rand the water is turned off. Instead you get a 5 gallon jug every morning and that is all the water the household gets for a day.
That happen to my neighbor you know? They have little kids.
Little kids use a lot of water, I said.
Yes! Ellen exclaimed, They like to flush the toilet! My neighbor runs out. By 2 or 3 oclock. And if its a Saturday and shes doing laundry they have no water to cook or go to the bathroom. Many times she comes over here because my water stays on all the time. I always give her water.
Our conversation flowed into the evening. Then the gate clanged and Ellen said, oh my husband is home. She got up from the couch and sat at the table. She started dong paper work.
I looked at Casey who was sitting across the room from me in a arm chair. We traded a look and I got up to greet Ellens husband. Best to make a good impression. I stood in the white kitchen as her husband closed the front gate. Hi I just wanted to introduce myself. Im Liselle, I said. The man was only slightly taller than me and thin. His face was wrinkle less and he had a slight beard.
Woah! I wish I was always welcomed home like that! Woah! He said shaking my hand. He recapped the moment before exclaiming woah a few more times. We moved into the living room and he kept talking, Woah! You are a star! Keep shining! Ill give you 75 percent! Casey was sitting cross legged on her chair. She didnt move to greet him. A moment later he corrected himself, No, no Ill give you 95 percent! Keep shining! Youre a star! Woah!
His attention turned to her. He asked what her name was a we talked for several minutes. He asked us to guess his age and I did what everyone does for adults, pretend to mull it over and guess lower than you really think. Thirty uhh. seven? I guessed.
KC? He asked, what do you think?
Forty five? She immediately guessed. Stupid girl I wanted to exclaim. Thats not how you play! Ellen was silently working on paper work at the table. I tried to include her into the conversation but she shook her head and smiled at me.
No, no he responded. He ragged on Casey for a moment, saying everything that I wanted to say to her. That she didnt think about her guess and just answered to placate him (well he didnt use that word but thats what he meant) and that is when I realized it. Hes drunk. He told me I was wrong, but he was quite taken with me and said he liked that I thought about it. He recapped our introduction again and asked Casey if she thought we could be related. Eventually I told him that I had to work on some homework. I said good night to him and Ellen who was still silently working at the table. Casey followed behind me.
The next morning I was up by 8 am. The ship has made me an early riser, I grumbled as I got ready. Casey was still asleep. I walked out into the living room and kitchen. No one was up yet. I could go for a walk. I mulled the idea around in my head before grabbing my shoes and heading out the door. I made sure to look the gates behind me. What is the point of having two metal gates that anyone can open?
The streets were still asleep. The morning light was harsh against my eyes. My walk was slow. I followed streets that I had walked the previous day with Ellen, going in a straight line so I wouldnt get lost. The few people that I saw were all dressed nicely and, I imagined, headed to church.
I passed a short, plump elderly woman as I was walking. I said good morning to her and she greeted me in Xhosa. I responded back that I only spoke English. She stared at me before saying, you look white, not like the color white but white like the race.
Thats because I am white, I said back, Im staying with Ellen for the night. I pointed out the house, right there.
And you came to see us? she asked. I nodded. Oh thats very good! I am so glad you want to see us. What are you doing up so early?
Im just going for a walk, I replied.
Well have a good walk! She said.
Thank you, I exclaimed as she waddled away.
The rest of my walk was very enjoyable. I took a few pictures of buildings and met some other locals. They all greeted me warmly. The walk was comfortable like I had wandered into Duchess, my regular Saturday lunch spot, and my Karate family was there waiting for me. It felt good that these people could see that I was white and wasnt scared to walk around their township. I felt glad that I was white so I could prove not all whites were like the South African whites that had imposed Apartheid on them.
I went back to the house to see if anyone was awake. Neither Ellen nor her husband were wandering the house yet but Casey was awake. I asked her if she wanted to join me on another walk. No, she said, I just want to stay in bed. I left sorta of happy that she didnt want to come with me. On my second walk I went in the other direction and kept going. I stayed out longer hoping that by the time I got back Ellen would be awake. Casey wasnt good company. The streets were starting to wake up by now. I wandered for 20 minutes then headed back. It was nice to have that quiet time.
Ellen was awake when I got back (thank god!) and she showed me how to make breakfast. It was called stavipup and was a dried flour that you could mix with water to make an oatmeal. She let me do it for Casey too (who still hadnt ventured out of the room yet). She let me put a little sugar in mine and Caseys. I used the teaspoon to sprinkle the white powder on top of mine. The little yellow container was almost empty and I hoped I wasnt using the last of her sugar. I only served Casey a little of the dried flour, assuming she wouldnt like it.
Ellen left to dress and Casey wandered in. I told her just to add a little water. She added to much water and had to add extra stavipup to thicken it. The obnoxious girl stuck the spoon in her mouth and chewed for a moment before whispering that it was disgusting. I replied that I had put a teaspoon of sugar in and I didnt think Ellen would mind if she used another. She nodded before taking the sugar container and pouring it over the bowl. My eyes widened and I bit my tongue. Unable to with hold my comment I took my breakfast into the living room.
I finished my breakfast and went back into the sink to rinse the bowl. Casey was sour faced and holding her bowl. I cant eat this, she declared. What should I do with it? After she wasted all of that sugar she wasnt going to eat it! I took a deep breath. My patience must be increasing with this. I responded that I wasnt sure and I would try to just finish it. In the end she ignored my suggestion and threw it away.
When we left I took a few pictures with Ellen and told her how grateful I was that she had opened her home to me. I got on the bus and put my backpack in the empty next to me. Casey walked by and I tried my hardest not to sneer at her. The home stay was really successful, excluding her presence. As we left Langa I smiled and put it on one of my places to come back to.